My Story

 

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Hi I’m Helen

Dying and death have a been part of my life for a long time. I’m comfortable with discussions around the process of dying and also comfortable to be with those who are dying or who have died and their families.

Our culture has developed a fear of dying and death for many reasons. These include our attachment to youth and our denial of ageing . The advances and changes in health care have pushed death mostly into the sterile rooms of hospitals. We deny death as a normal part of daily life as it once was many years ago.

I believe we need to bring death back into our lives  and accept death as a normal human experience.

I have 30 years of nursing experience most of those years spent in Paediatric Intensive Care nursing. I have borne witness to the dying process many times and gently encouraged families to care for their children after death. It has always been a privilege to serve these families at this time.

Dying can be many things, a time of healing and love, emotional, spiritual and physical pain. In our modern world physical pain can usually be relieved. Emotional and spiritual pain however is not often recognised or spoken of. This is a tragedy because one of the greatest analgesics for emotional pain is the simple act of genuine listening.

As someone who cares deeply, but is outside of the family system, I bring a stable, grounded and compassionate presence to the confusion at this time.

It is my wish for us all to embrace and accept our own deaths and in doing so live more meaning lives.

I am a home volunteer with Palliative Care.

I have been a member of Heartfelt for 11 years. Heartfelt is a group of professional photographers who give their time to provide photographic memories for families who suffer with stillborn, extremely premature and terminally or critically ill children.

If you’d like more information please contact me : 0412 117 560 or email me for more information info@gracefuldying.com or go to contact page

I also offer photography services Helen Roberts Photography

or In Loving Memory

The first breath is the beginning of death.       

Thomas Fuller